Emersyn Faith has Down syndrome. And she is perfect.
When Courtney Baker was pregnant with Emersyn, her doctor repeatedly advised her to have an abortion. He insisted her child’s quality of life would be extremely low. But the Florida mom did not agree.
Baker began to think about writing a letter even before Emersyn—Emmy—was born. It took her another year to put pen to paper and get the letter mailed off to the doctor she once trusted. Then she posted her letter on the Parker Myles Facebook page, which has since gotten more than 2,300 shares and 5,000 likes.
Read the full letter below:
A friend recently told me of when her prenatal specialist would see her child during her sonograms, he would comment, “He’s perfect.” Once her son was born with Down syndrome, she visited that same doctor. He looked at her little boy and said, “I told you. He’s perfect.”
Her story tore me apart. While I was so grateful for my friend’s experience, it filled me with such sorrow because of what I should have had. I wish you would have been that doctor.
I came to you during the most difficult time in my life. I was terrified, anxious and in complete despair. I didn’t know the truth yet about my baby, and that’s what I desperately needed from you. But instead of support and encouragement, you suggested we terminate our child. I told you her name, and you asked us again if we understood how low our quality of life would be with a child with Down syndrome. You suggested we reconsider our decision to continue the pregnancy.
From that first visit, we dreaded our appointments. The most difficult time in my life was made nearly unbearable because you never told me the truth.
My child was perfect.
I’m not angry. I’m not bitter. I’m really just sad. I’m sad the tiny beating hearts you see every day don’t fill you with a perpetual awe. I’m sad the intricate details and the miracle of those sweet little fingers and toes, lungs and eyes and ears don’t always give you pause. I’m sad you were so very wrong to say a baby with Down syndrome would decrease our quality of life. And I’m heartbroken you might have said that to a mommy even today.
But I’m mostly sad you’ll never have the privilege of knowing my daughter, Emersyn.
To find out more about Emersyn and Down syndrome, check out the Parker Myles website.
This story first appeared on The TN Valley Community Journal, a publication of Shattered Media, Inc.