Real talk. Our culture expects men to be addicted to pornography.

Popular television shows and movies depict this expectation without hesitation. Countless number of well-read Christian authors have addressed the male obsession with pornography and how to combat it. It has become, dare I say, “acceptable” for men to struggle with an addiction to pornography. Our culture says, “it’s just how they are” in reference to men and their need to see, watch, and experience porn. Numerous Christian authors have written articles and preached sermons specifically for men regarding this issue. I am not saying that these articles are bad (I’ve re-tweeted several of them), but it just makes me wonder. Where are the resources for women who are held captive by this crippling addiction?

I was exposed to pornography at a very young age. I spent most of my life hiding this particular sin and pretending like I didn’t suffer from it. Why?  Because I was horrendously ashamed to talk to anyone about it. After all, Christian women aren’t supposed to have pornography addictions.  So, I kept my little secret locked inside and allowed it to poison my heart.

I was imprisoned by a secret sin and was too ashamed to try to break free.

I didn’t have the guts to talk about it until my sophomore year in college. Yes, you read that correctly. I was twenty years old and completely broken by my inability to be honest with the people around me. At that point, I was convicted beyond belief and finally discussed the issue with a trusted friend of mine.

I spilled my poisoned, chained-up, sinful guts – and for the first time in my life, I felt the weight of secrecy and hypocrisy lifted off of my shoulders.

With that weight gone, however, all that was left was a broken mess of a person. Thankfully, my friend was able to lead me to the forgiveness and redemption found only in Jesus Christ. I was freed!

Problem solved, right? Not even close.

While my heart was set free, the poisonous images and habits that had soaked into my brain and life for the past fifteen years had to be removed. There is no magic potion or serum that can completely remove this poison, my friend. Trust me.

“There is therefore now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus. For the law of the Spirit of life has set you free in Christ Jesus from the law of sin and death.”  Romans 8:1-2

Only the unconditional love and forgiveness that Christ gave us with his death and resurrection can replace our shameful addictions and unending struggles. It’s not an overnight process either. I am twenty three years old now. God has given me an incredibly loving husband and I still fight this particular sin almost every day.  Submerged in a culture where sex is flaunted and promoted, the temptation is even greater. It’s like an alcoholic who carries a flask at all times. It doesn’t mean he’ll drink, but the option is continually at his fingertips. Temptation is inevitable!

I’m writing this as an encouragement to women who also deal with pornography struggle. Know that you are not alone! Our loving Father forgives us of our indiscretions and restores us as his beautiful, blameless children. He will fight this in us so we don’t have to be enslaved by our temptations. We have freedom in Christ and victory over sin! Hold on to that indisputable promise and walk in the freedom found in Christ alone.

[Image via Anieto2k/Flickr]

7 Responses

  1. Rachael
    Rachael

    Sarah –

    Your honesty is refreshing. It takes courageous people like you to open up about your own struggles to allow people to see how they too can be freed from whatever holds them captive! So proud of you for sharing.

    Reply
  2. Anna

    wow thank you for your awesome story and honesty Sarah. It is truly amazing and refreshing to read something so honest, you are truly after God’s glory, thank you. <3

    Reply
  3. Angela Holmes

    I love you my sweet daughter-in-law! Thank you for your bravery and your witness! Bless you for putting yourself out there to help others.

    Reply
  4. Laurie Pallotta
    Laurie Pallotta

    Thank you for sharing your amazing story! You have bravely attacked a subject most women choose to ignore, and if it’s their particular battle, surely try to hide. You’ve brought the darkness of sin into the light and shown that the Father’s forgiveness is always more than enough.

    Reply
  5. Laura

    Thank you for this post and for being real! I too have struggled with this and dealt with it in a manner similar to you, and it is a fight on a regular basis due to the onslaught of sexuality in our culture. Thankful for the forgiveness in Christ Jesus! It is a struggle to walk in that forgiveness sometimes when you want to beat yourself up for your sins, but the beauty of His grace shows up even stronger.

    Reply
  6. Christina S
    Christina S

    Sarah– so applauding your transparency! Refreshing and the church needs less masks, and more of this. You rock!

    Reply

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published.

Pin It on Pinterest

Get More from Shattered.

 

Let's do life together. Shattered will send you weekly stories of hope to get you through your week.

You have been Successfully added!